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Individual Responsibility

Individual responsibility sometimes also known as personal responsibility is a very significant virtue of life since it helps make the entire world a better place as well as provide some sense of empowerment to everyone.

Individuals do have a responsibility to assist other people who may need their help. It is all about being responsible in one’s action that may affect other people who are out of one’s family or immediate circle. Analysts have argued that those classified as immediate circle include friends and family members. Moreover, critics have also reasoned that individual responsibility may include the engagement of each individual towards those around him or her as well as engagement towards the community the person lives. It also means the inherent interest an individual has towards the happenings in the community as well as the individual’s active participation towards solving the local problems of the community. Within the community, we are able to understand our small village, town or the big city where each and every one of us lives. This implies that other people are our neighbours and we are obligated to help them as required by the natural unwritten law of coexistence. It is worth to note that each and every community lives a life of its own and therefore undergoes a continual process of development with time. The implication is that every individual within the community may take part in this development generally in different ways. For instance, the individual can participate in this development by cleaning the streets so that every other person in the neighbourhood can walk on a clean street; by giving social services to elderly people or orphans or by taking part in events aimed at improving the general living standards of the community. In many quotes, individual responsibility has been demonstrated through donations of food or money to those in dire needs.

Today, some people do believe that we need to start taking personal responsibility about helping others while some critics believe that no one is obligated to help any other person. For those who hold the belief of helping others, they do argue that it is ethical to do so. Moreover, the proponent of this argument that it is the duty of an individual to save the lives of another person, including strangers for the cost in most of the times is relatively little. They also argue that “giving to charity” where poverty is concerned is neither generous nor charitable but a duty. Therefore, not giving is ethically wrong. Those who oppose the notion of helping others have always held the opinion that the act of helping lead to laziness and unproductivity that escalates poverty in most communities.

In as much as giving is important in the community as has been discussed in paragraph one, it also has its disadvantage as illustrated in paragraph two. Every person would want to give as part of social responsibility and also because the ethical principle requires one to do so. However, the repercussions of giving sometimes negate the noble act of helping others. This is because people tend to be overly reliant and dependent on others who are hardworking. The implication is that the society may ultimately end up with a few individuals who are productive with a majority being unproductive. This may form an avenue of increased poverty in the society and the world at large. On the contrary, give for noble reasons like helping the sick, feeding the famine-stricken community or helping those struck by natural calamities like earthquakes or floods are very much in order.

Personally, the time that I needed help but didn’t get it was when I was looking for a job. I had no one to provide for me since I had just gone through college under a government scholarship. My parents passed on when I was still in college and by the time I was getting out of college I had no one to count on. My first and foremost priority was to look for a job to take care of myself. The jobs were rare to come by. This was compounded by the fact that my uncle who had accommodated me threw me out of his house. I became a vagabond and slept on the street. I had no food and could not find clothes to wear even as I work in the morning to search for a job. People were scared of me and thought that I was a homeless mad person. This hurt me so much. I started collecting and selling used plastics to recycling companies. This enabled me to get some capital to start my grocery business that I am running today as a sole proprietor.

As discussed in this essay, every community lives a life of its own and therefore undergoes a continual process of development with time. The implication is that every individual within the community may take part in this development generally in different ways. Therefore, there is no harm in helping another person so that everyone can contribute positively to the development of the community. This may go a long way in affirming the individual responsibility which is a very significant virtue of life since it helps make the entire world a better place as well as provide some sense of empowerment.

Parenting Tips – How to Discipline Children

When parents want their children to behave appropriately, they will rely on certain discipline strategies that will ensure the good behavior of their off-springs. All of these strategies are positive – most of the times – and don’t mean punishment. They should be based on talking parents and children that listen.

But raising children is hard, and a parent might not always know what the best approach is. That’s why, in the following paragraphs, we will detail to you some parenting tips that will help you discipline your children.

Communication Is Important

As your children begin to mature and to understand you, you should learn how to communicate with them. The way you explain to them the things that are good and those that are bad is very important. You must make sure that you take a simple approach when communicating with your child.

This means that you should go for a form of open communication – basically, explaining to them everything that must be explained, without leaving information behind or keeping it hidden.

They must understand clearly what will happen if they don’t behave accordingly – and you also mustn’t turn a blind eye when it’s time for consequences.

Choose the Way of Positive Parenting

Do you want to know how to be a good parent? That’s easy – be positive when raising your children. Don’t frighten them with punishments or any other negative ways of discipline.

Positive parenting means that you should not apply irrational or unnatural consequences because of your children’s misbehavior. Treat every matter in a logical way. For example, if your child spends more time playing on the computer than allowed, you should not forbid him or her using it – instead, tell them that the next day they will be allowed less time on the computer, to make it up for today.

This will make them more responsible and pay more attention when it comes to something that’s important to them.

Moreover, sending them to their room if they’ve misbehaved shouldn’t be the way you approach the situation. Instead, search for an immediate consequence rather than giving them the time alone they need after you’ve scolded them.

Ask for Parenting Advice

There’s no doubt – parenting is hard!

While you might dislike someone who’s telling you how to raise your children, it’s important to listen to this kind of advice from time to time. Furthermore, if you are looking for such advice, it is recommended that you call your parents or meet with your closest friends and ask them for your help.

You may be new to the world of parenting, but your parents are not. They have parenting skills that have probably been forged in fire – if you were a naughty child. It is always a good thing to have your parents close to you when raising your child.

This means three or more different mindsets that work towards the same goal – the appropriate behavior of your children; you can be sure that everything will work out in the end.

Have a Set of Family Rules

Naturally, being a parent implies rules for your children. However, you should start off by making a set of rules for the entire family. You already know this, but a child’s behavior is very influenced by the behavior of their parents – therefore, why should your children respect the rules even you don’t respect?

The first set of rules should be basic – all of the family members have to help around the house; we don’t misplace our things; we speak nicely to people. Of course, as the children grow, you will be adding some rules that will refer only to them and to what are the expectations you have.

This is yet another thing that will make your child more responsible – knowing that he or she is expected to do something, or else there will be consequences. If the child’s room is not clean, while the parents have cleaned theirs, then the parents could cancel a walk in the park just so that the child cleans the room. Simple – look for consequences rather than for punishment.

Scold – But Also Praise!

It’s natural for you to scold your children after they’ve done something bad, didn’t respect the house rules or such other things.

But, next on the list of communication tips you should consider, is the tip that encourages you to praise your children every time they’ve done something good. And you shouldn’t consider the fact that you are angry at them because of something they might have done.

You do so because this will increase their self-esteem and make them more confident. A child whose manners and good behavior are not praised will think that he or she is not doing them the right way, and therefore might develop a feeling of insecurity.

Disciplining your children does not mean you should always be rigid and hard to approach. A stiff parent will grow a stiff child – but also a child that’s introverted and has a hard time approaching children his own age.

School, Preteens, and Teens

Until they get into school, it’s easy to make your children behave appropriately. If you explain them the situation they’re in and why you don’t like what they’ve done every time they’re misbehaving, then you shouldn’t have any issues.

However, once they have homework as well as other responsibilities than those they have at home – your school-aged children and preteens will have a difficult time keeping up with what they are supposed to do.

When your child is in school, a good behavior means that he will try to do everything that he has to do. You could set up a family writing service to help him with one of those things, but it is better just to remind your child of the obligations he or she has.

On the other hand, preteens and teens will give you a hard time as this is the time when your children begin to talk back and have that major attitude even you had once. In this case, it’s better to understand the position they’re in – they are not mad on you and definitely not trying to get you angry; they are just upset that they are not getting everything they want at the moment and get frustrated because of this.

As we mentioned at the beginning of this article, you should have a positive approach to parenting and communicate with your children whenever you can – this will let them know that they can open to you whenever there’s something that troubles them.

Now, if you consider all of these tips, by the time your children get to college, then to University and become students – which is the step just before adulthood -, they will be disciplined, well-behaved, and your relationship with them will be as every parent-child relationship should be.